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The Best NSFW Events in New York City This Fall

By: Clare Edgerton

This is a guide for couples, or very adventurous singles, that want to start their autumn with a bang (maybe even literally). I mean, we are living in New York City, it should come as no surprise that there is no shortage of kinky, off-the-beaten path fun to be had. We’ve rounded up our top picks to kick off PSL season. And speaking of spice, we’ve given them each a spice rating: mild, medium, hot, or off the charts.

Without further ado, here are idk tonight’s top picks, organized by venue.

Five of The Best NSFW Events in NYC

House of Scorpio
225 Douglass Street, Brooklyn

House of Scorpio is a community that hosts kinky events and has a huge focus on education and inclusivity. In their own words: “We are a femme-owned sex-positive community creating safe space for people of all genders and sexual orientations. We prefer a thinking person’s approach to sexuality, with events including book clubs and sex ed classes, and have an ongoing love affair with all things nerdy.”

House of Scorpio hosts regular events out of the Gemini & Scorpio loft in Gowanus. Here are some of the best coming up this month:

A Guide to Cunnilingus with Vonka — September 8
Spice Rating: Medium

How They Describe It: “Are you a cunning linguist? This class is for those who want to improve their tongue game as well as those who want to learn how to receive a good licking. Vonka will demystify going down on innie bits/vulvas in addition to the mental and emotional elements of eating out. You’re gunna lick it.”

Our Thoughts: If you’re wanting to dip your toes into the sex positive waters of Brooklyn, Gemini & Scorpio loft in Gowanus is one of the best places to get your toes wet. And we have a feeling they won’t be the only thing that is wet by the time you brush up your giving and receiving skills.

The Dirty Deets:
3-6p.m.
21+ (25+ suggested)
$20 (limited tickets) / $0-$10 for monthly members
Gemini & Scorpio Loft, Gowanus, BK
This is part of the Bedroom Badass series, which happens every first Sunday of the month.

 

Lip Service — September 13
Spice Rating: Spicy

How They Describe It: “A pansexual kissing & cocktails party.”
“Think of our makeout parties as community mixers–a place to get to know your fellow kinksters, introduce a partner to a more playful lifestyle, and maybe even find a future PAL–before attending the more naughty play parties.”

Our Thoughts: If you are thinking of working up to play parties, this is a great place to start. HoS has a notoriously welcoming and open vibe. You will be expected to participate, but nothing beyond kissing. This is not a party for voyeurs, but it’s also not a full on sex party, so the pressure is low, and the sexual tension is high. And while there is no sexual activity allowed at this event, there are no rules about what you and your partner (and whoever you happen to meet) get up to after the party.

Important Note For All Potential Attendees, Particularly Men: “This is a pansexual event welcoming ALL shades of gender & sexual self-identity. Come prepared to participate in sexy party games that include other men, as well as queer or trans individuals. If you can’t handle mild physical contact with these guests in the context of these games, this is not the right event for you. Be forewarned: our doorman might ask you to kiss each other at the door. If you’re only coming to hit on girls, you’re breaking our “no cruising” rule and are not welcome.”

The Dirty Deets:
9p.m. to 2a.m.
21+ (25+ suggested)
$20 with RSVP / $25 without / $0-$15 for monthly members
Gemini & Scorpio Loft, Gowanus, BK
Lip Service happens every second Friday.

 

Other Events at House of Scorpio in September:

Sex Lit (Stoya’s Book Club) or Rated Sex (Stoya’s Film Club) — September 15
Femme Flirt — September 20

 

All House of Scorpio event details and full calendar can be found on their website.

Credit: Gemini and Scorpio Loft, Facebook
Curious Fox
Various Locations, New York

Effy Blue is one of the preeminent relationship coaches in NYC. If you’re curious about opening up your relationship or trying out a new relationship model, she’s the woman to see. She also hosts incredible events. The one that caught our eye for September is all about erotic power.

CF Presents: Monsters/Shadows: The Erotic Power Source by Midori (Self Discovery) — September 26
Spice Rating: Medium

How They Describe It: “Part workshop, part deep dive, part storytelling from Midori. You’ll create your own masks of power and desire. Engage in this challenging conversation as Midori shares strategies of creating and exploring erotic fantasies that could thrill you gloriously.”

Our Thoughts: Single and seeking out some NSFW fun? This could be a great way to step into your erotic power before mingling with some fellow kinkily charged hotties. We think the socializing starting at 9:30 is guaranteed to be above and beyond your usually date night chatter.

The Dirty Deets:
Doors at 7p.m. The class starts at 7:30 p.m. Socializing from 9:30 p.m.
TBD Architecture and Design Studio
373 Broadway


RSVP and more event details can be found here.

Credit: Curious Fox, Facebook
Chemistry
Clinton Hill, Brooklyn

Next Party: September 6, 7, & 8, 2019

Spice Rating: Off the charts

How They Describe It: “Chemistry is a whimsical, joyous, vibrant concoction that is created by participants who are playful, creative, intelligent, adventurous, beautiful, and enlightened…Chemistry is a private membership organization. All party guests MUST be registered members of chemistry. To become a member, all prospective guests must individually respond to our New Member Questionnaire.”

Our Thoughts: They take their applications seriously. They are long, and detailed, and about way more than your sexual history. So there is a very good chance that if you’re not already a member, you’re probably SOL when it comes to attending the parties in early September. However, if this sounds like something you’d like to try, get going on your application now!

Chemistry NYC
Credit: Chemistry
Hacienda
Various Locations, New York

If you’ve ever done even a casual google about the sex party scene in NYC, you’ve probably discovered Hacienda already. But in our humble opinion, it belongs on every list of sex positive NSFW events and education. With multiple locations and a fabulous mix of education, performance, and play, Hacienda is a community that keeps on giving. Yes, you do have to be a member to attend their play parties, but isn’t that a good thing? Vetting is key here, folks. And if you aren’t ready to fill out an application, check out some of their educational programming instead. Here are a couple of their fantastic September shindigs.

Hot for Teacher — September 7
Spice Rating: Off the Charts

How They Describe It: “Are you on the honor roll or headed for detention? Mark your calendars for the start of the fall semester and the last big play party hosted at the original Hacienda house on Park St.”

Our Thoughts: This is a classic, fabulously themed Hacienda play party. And you guessed it, you have to be a member. Don’t despair if you’re a bit late to the party. Hacienda hosts events on a very regular basis, so if you get your application in soon, you and your sexy bae could be dressing up for the next soiree.

Here’s the application, because we know you’re dying to know.

 

Rope Share — September 11
Spice Rating: Medium

How They Describe It: Find a study buddy, practice your rope skills, and get tied up at open rope nights. Our gathering includes:
Casual education & unconference-style skill sharing
Social time for the community
Soft areas for floor rope
Multiple hard points for suspension
Light snacks, and more!

Our Thoughts: If you have ever wondered what it might be like to be tied up or to do the tying, this is where you can learn all about it, in a safe, open, educational, and freaking sexy environment.

You can find more information here.

Credit: Hacienda
House of Yes
2 Wyckoff Avenue, Brooklyn

If you’re reading this article, you’re probably already a regular at House of Yes. If you aren’t, get ready to be. This Bushwick bastion is the epicenter of all things freaky, fun, experimental, and experiential. Here are two of our favorites.

Dirty Circus — September 11
Spice Rating: Medium

How They Describe It: A variety show dedicated to the raw & the raunchy. Aerial. Circus. Absurdity. Skill. Hilarity. Brilliance.The finest, fittest and most ferocious performers, curated to perfection and presented on our stage for your enjoyment. Told in 3 acts, not for the faint of heart.”

Our Thoughts: This description has all of our favorite adjectives at one of our favorite venues. You may not be getting freaky, but you’ll definitely see some freaky stuff, and get inspired for whatever it is you want to do when you get home.

Bonus: Spa Seating is described as follows. And sounds positively divine.

“SPA SEATING: At every Dirty Circus show, one lucky guest (+ whoever they invite with them) will have the opportunity to have an unforgettable experience of watching the show from the best seat in the house – our vintage clawfoot bathtub! As part of this spa seating we will pamper you with handmade bubbles, fresh towels, personal butler and other surprises. Access to this seating starts at 7:30pm sharp. Get here early.”

The Dirty Deets:
Wed, September 11, 2019
7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
House of Yes
2 Wyckoff Avenue
21+
$20 – $60
Tickets and more information here.

 

Videology presents: Secretary Drinking Game + BDSM Workshop w/ Babeland — September 17
Spice Rating: Medium

How They Describe It: “This BDSM classic is best paired with the opportunity to indulge your bondage curiosities. Before the screening, join Babeland’s sex educators for a kinky intro lesson where they’ll show you the ropes with techniques, tricks, and a basic tie to bind and restrain a partner for some rope bondage fun. Participants will get hands-on experience to learn a double column tie, as well as the opportunity to talk to Babeland Sex Educators who will answer any questions you may have about getting knotty!”

Our Thoughts: Please raise your hand if Secretary also got you hot, bothered, and all kinds of curious before you even knew what to be curious about? You can’t because they are currently tied to your bedpost? We get it. Better get your tickets to this one quick, because this sounds like just about the perfect evening for anyone interested in kink. And can we just say how daring of a first or early date this would be?

The Dirty Deets:
Tue, September 17, 2019
7:00 p.m. – 11:30 p.m.
House of Yes
2 Wyckoff Avenue
21+
$25 – $50
Tickets and more information here.

Credit: House of Yes

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