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9 Sexy Underground NSFW Events For Couples In New York City

By: Kimberly M. Aquilina 

Is watching “Fifty Shades of Gray” the pinnacle of cheeky, hot fun for you as a couple? Turn up the heat with these very adult date night ideas only found in the velvet underground of New York City. Maybe you’re already on the lookout for safe, sane and consensual mischief on date night — or maybe you’ve never even allowed yourself to think about activities beyond a PG-13 masquerade ball. 

Regardless, if you’re ready to take a peek behind the curtain and expand your avenues, this NSFW guide is for you (and yours). We promise there’s something in here that will pique your (private) interests. 

Rubber dresses and doggie collars are optional. Be yourselves. The coolest thing about getting involved in the sex-positive community here in New York is that no one judges. Going to a sexy costume party? You don’t have to be nearly-naked to be fabulous. Want to check out a masturbation class, but feeling shy about exposing your bits? Keep your pants on. Stay in your comfort zone and use these suggestions to open up communication and connect with your lover on a new level.

Read on for our top date-worthy events this summer. We promise Eleven can wait.

The NSFW Guide To New York City

1. A strip club-esque experience you can tell mama about.
Location & Date: Hammerstein Ballroom, Hell's Kitchen, June 17th
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Broadway Bares is an annual charity event that combines Broadway-level talent and showmanship with teeny-tiny G-strings and pasties. This year’s theme is “Game Night” where performers will “put a sassy, seductive spin on games you know and love,” including “a pulsating poke at pinball” and “saucy virtual reality video games.” 

Broadway Cares/Equity Fighting AIDS has raised millions in the fight against HIV/AIDS since its inception in 1992.  Last year’s theme was “Strip U,” a playful take on college courses, and while the Broadway dancers, choreography and set design wowed audiences, the leaves-no-room-for-the-imagination costumes on the “co-eds” left many breathless…and perhaps more than a few breathing heavily.

Keep your eyes peeled for A-list celebrity appearances. Last year, Judith Light graced the stage after the show and the likes of James Franco and John Stamos have been known to show some skin for past Broadway Bares events. Uncle Jesse doesn’t do it for you? Famous supporters of Broadway Bares include Kristin Chenoweth, Neil Patrick Harris, Alan Cumming, Angela Lansbury and Jay-Z.

DETAILS: Broadway Bares makes NYC blush at 7:30 p.m. and again at midnight. 

idk tip: Midnight shows tend to see more “wardrobe malfunctions”, *wink wink*.

PRICE: Tickets range from $65 to $3,000.

2. Do your own stunts.
Location & Date: Brooklyn Zoo, Williamsburg, June 5th
lovers wrestling class nyc

Remember roughhousing as kids? Now, imagine that as an adult…blood pumping, laughing with your partner and clothing optional. Want to flip positions mid-coitus and land on top without, um, “disengaging?” You won’t learn that from watching GLOW. Making hot, passionate love standing against a wall isn’t just for the movies. 

If you and your partner are looking for something a little more physical than your average date (but just as clothed), Goddess Lola Jean’s Wrestling for Lovers class might be perfect for you. You don’t have to be Chuck Norris or in tip-top shape to have fun with Lola Jean, a mental health care professional trained in Ju-Jitsu, and her band of legit Jiu-jitsu experts. You might be shocked to find that innocent self-defense positions can make anyone of any gender identity into a badass Jean-Claude Van Damme during sexytime.

DETAILS: The class starts at 7:30 p.m. and runs until about 9:30. Be sure to wear comfortable clothes, like workout gear.

idk tip: Lola Jean teaches tons of other sex-positive classes. See her full line-up here.

PRICE: Tickets range from $45-$120. Grab ’em here. 

3. Pretty and practical.
Location & Date: Purple Passion, Chelsea, June 14th
bondage class nyc

This is one I’ve been dying to try: rope typing! I’ve never gotten a Girl or Boy Scout badge, but beginners are welcome to Rope Bondage Basics: Harnesses at sex toy shop, Purple Passion. If you’ve dabbled in some playful bondage with a necktie or Velcro cuffs, it could be time to step up your game and learn to truss up your lover like a Thanksgiving turkey. Instructor Lolita will walk you through hands-on rope tying bondage basics.

You’ll need two 30-foot lengths of rope for the class. Hemp is a great idea for beginners with its soft feel and earthy smell, but you can buy nylon rope for less —  leaving money in your pocket to pick out a fun new toy while you’re at the sex shop.

DETAILS: Class begins at 7:30 p.m.

idk tip: Check out Purple Passion’s other classes online here.

PRICE: Tickets are 20 smackaroos and can be purchased here.

4. Open up and say “ahhh…”
Location & Date: Pleasure Chest, West Village, June 7th
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Rely on that fifth sense of yours—taste—at the Pleasure Chest’s upcoming in-store event, Filthy F***ing Food, where you and your paramour can tempt and tease each other’s taste buds with edible aphrodisiacs. This first come/first served class is free, so be sure to get there ahead of time to ensure you and your date get in. Riffing on the classic “wine and cheese pairing”, you’ll learn which toys pair well with which love-enhancing foods.

Bonus: Many of the instructors at Pleasure Chest taught workshops and seminars at the 2017 Sex Expo in Brooklyn, so if you have any questions or curiosity, you’ll be among top sexperts.

DETAILS: The tasting starts at 7 p.m. and goes until 9 p.m. 

idk tip: Check out Pleasure Chest’s other awesome events here. 

PRICE: Free!

5. Keeping bad company.
Location & Date: Théâtre XIV, June 9th-July 29th
boylesque bullfight nyc

Who says going to the theater can’t be sexy? Prepare for one of the steamiest theater experiences of your life with Company XIV’s kinky “Boylesque Bullfight”, which opens on June 9. The all-male striptease inspired by the story of Ferdinand the Bull will have you asking, “Is it hot in here or is it just the buff ass dudes on stage?” You can even add a liquid libation to be waiting for you at your seats when you arrive during checkout online. We recommend adding on the Boylesque Bullfight’s signature cocktail called simply Ferdinand.

DETAILS: There are shows at 6, 8, 9:30 and 10 p.m. depending on which date you choose. 

idk tip: Get more information on the outgoing and incoming shows at companyxiv.com

PRICE: $55-$260

6. “The party don’t start until we walk in…”
Location & Date: House of Yes, Bushwick, Various Dates
house of yes nyc

…to House of Yes. We love pretty much everything House of Yes produces, so check their calendar here to see what piques your interest. Before your HoY experience, grab some killer falafel at their sister restaurant, Queen of Falafel. Then, get to grinding it up on your honey like Beyoncé and Jay Z. You do need tickets to get in (many of which start at free), so grab them online ahead of time. May we recommend Bad Behavior on June 24th or Foreplay on June 30th? 

7. Celebrate with Pride.
Location & Date: Théâtre XIV, June 23rd
torture garden ball xiv nyc

Professional dancers from Vice and Company XIV are collaborating with Torture Garden, described by the event site as “the world’s largest fetish nightclub brand and top latex fashion label,” to bring you Torture Garden NY: Midsummer Night Pride Ball. Intended to end Pride Week on a high note, this show will not leave one of your senses underfed. The ball boasts a latex fashion show, a BDSM play space and international DJs. Not to mention all the burlesque, opera, aerial and kink performances you can handle. Fantasy/fetish dress code strictly enforced.

DETAILS: The gala starts at 9:30 p.m. on the penultimate Saturday in June and ends in the wee hours of Sunday.

idk tip: Indulge your secret (or not so secret) inner hedonist at the “opulent” multi-level vault at Capitale, 130 Bowery in Lower Manhattan.

PRICE: Tickets are $60-$95 and can be purchased via this link

8. Strut your stuff.
Location & Date: House of Yes, Bushwick, June 27th
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The minds behind House of Yes believe “weird is beautiful” (ditto) and everyone belongs—including amateur strippers. You and your partner can take it (nearly) all off on stage during Amateur Burlesque Night. A grower, not a shower? Voyeurs can watch both first-timers debut and professionals testing out material not suitable for other venues. While it’s free to attend, any donations given at the door will be directly given to the performers, according to the event page.

DETAILSThe spectacle starts at 7 p.m. If you want to shake your lovely lady (or gentleman) humps for the masses, submit your idea, video or concept along with your song choice to kae@houseofyes.org with the subject line “I WANT TO TAKE IT OFF.”

idk tip: Try to find the secret Jacuzzi in the yard while sipping a Oaxacan on Sunshine. P.S. The bathrooms are arguably the best selfie spots in Bushwick.

PRICE: Free. 

9. Tangled Up In Tango
Location & Date: Various
tango date class nyc

Learn how to tango during your next date night with Strictly Tango at Pearl Studios in Manhattan. Don’t feel like coughing up cash for a ticket? You can tango in the park for free at 6 p.m. on Saturday, June 24 at Stuyvesant Square Park.

If you’re in a same-sex relationship and are tired of teachers fumbling about trying to figure out which of you will dance the traditionally male lead or the traditionally female role of the Argentine tango, turn Thirsty Thursdays into date night by taking Queer Tango Class at Dardo Galletto Studio. Tickets are $20.

Kim's Sexy At-Home Tip

Before bed, reading a porn novella to each other is a great way to turn something “vanilla” into something that gives you the warm and tinglies in all the right places. Recently, my BF introduced me to the fun of downloading FemDomme porn and passing the Kindle while lying on the grass, the beach or the bed. What a great way to warm up the senses, get cozy and add a little silliness and roleplay between the sheets (or on the kitchen table… bathroom floor… wherever)!

Who is this chick talking about all the sexy?
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Kimberly M. Aquilina is a professional journalist with a B.A. in Communications from Penn State who went from having sex for the wrong reasons, dealing with sexual abuse, losing her sense of sexuality to finding her happiest self. While she doesn’t lead her boyfriend around Times Square on a leash, kink is a part of her identity and she is part of the sex-positive community. She writes about sex but will not have it with you. She found her person and is in a loving, serious, monogamous relationship with “her human” (what others might call “The One”). Kim lives in Brooklyn with her two cats who serve as copy editors, in that they like walking across her keyboard and deleting large chunks of text right before deadline.